I was recently told about this lady (let’s call her Lindsey) who broke up with her boyfriend because she found him annoying. They had been together for two years and were constantly off and on. Truth is he was cheating on her, and when Lindsey would find out she would break up with him. Two weeks later they would be back together, this happened about four times over the two years. Every time they would break up Lindsey would reach out to this guy (let’s call him John) that was always available to take her out on dates and be there for her.
Fast forward to today and Lindsey is officially single, and you can guess what she did? She hit up John and now they are hanging out, with certain conditions attached. Lindsey doesn’t want a relationship with John, she doesn’t want to have sex or provide oral. She just wants him to take her out on dates, DON’T be John.
John is what we call a hover. Hovers are guys that girls call when the man they want isn’t fulfilling their needs. Hovers don’t win with the ladies because they allow ladies to use them as side boys. Lindsey doesn’t respect John because John doesn’t respect himself. A man who is confident, has his life together, loves himself, and is busy with his passions, doesn’t allow himself to be a hover. More importantly a self-assured man doesn’t allow himself to take a girl out on multiple dates when there is zero chance of a relationship or sex blossoming from the date. Hovers don’t lead, they follow. Women love successful men not because they have money, but because of the driven leadership mentality those men possess to become successful. Be a leader, not a hover and your one step closer to getting the woman of your dreams. You must respect you!