We’ve all been there, you get a date scheduled with the women of your dreams and now you’re scared, You don’t know what she likes, what if you don’t have anything to talk to her about, will there be uncomfortable silence, will she just sit there or will she talk….. Think like that and you will become paralyzed in fear, don’t over think a date.
You should be focused on the BCH formula when dating a woman.
Life is too short to not have fun, furthermore can you think of a better time to let your inner Maverick and James Bond loose than when on a first date? You know nothing about the girl, what an amazing time to let your inquisitive mind loose and just keep her talking about herself. Ask her questions and listen and don’t be affriad to have fun with the conversation. Women love a man who is confident to the point that he doesn’t allow the opinions of strangers to shake him off his core.
Well guess what, she is a stranger! So don’t worry about making a good impression, be present, listen with the intent of listening and above all have fun.
Too often guys feel like they need to impress the woman on the first date and do or say things which are not reflective of who they really are. Your mindset needs to shift from one of scarcity to one of abundance. There are plenty of women out there for you to choose from, she needs to impress you as much or even more than you need to impress her.
Going into a date with the mindset that she has to impress you will automatically give you the psychological upper hand needed to BCH the shit out of every date. There are more amazing women for you to choose from than men for her. Half the dudes in your town don’t have their shit together, they drink too much, play way to many video games, have zero ambitions and stopped trying to improve their lives after high school. The fact that you reading this makes you different. Now chill out so you can have fun and….
You’re a man, you want sex and she knows it. It’s your job to be the confident man that goes for the kiss. You need to pay attention to her body language and her eyes when you two are talking. Does she lean in close to you when you are talking, does she play with her hair, does she look at your lips, these are all signs she is into you. When the night is coming to a close and you think the time is right for a kiss, look at her lips, then look up at her eyes, if she does the same thing chances are she wants to kiss you to.
If you two are alone watching Netflix then don’t be afraid to touch her. Start slow, women love a man who takes their time and builds up the occasion throw down (some don’t want to waste time, those women will be obvious). Start by rubbing her hands, then neck, after a couple minutes go in for the make out session. If you go to take off her pants, grab tits or ass and she stops you, don’t say “why not” or “come on, you’ll enjoy it,” simply acknowledge that she is not comfortable going that far and resume the heavy make out.
Women will stop you from advancing not because they don’t want you, but to see how you will react. If you lose you shit the first time she rejects your sexual advance, then in her eyes you are a loose cannon that can someday physically hurt her. She needs to know you are the confident man that can handle a 10 to 30 minutes delay, and brush of her tests.
You are the man and it’s you job to make sex happen.
There are three simple rules to dating a woman, whether you been dating her for one week or thirty years. Be Fun, Chill Out, and Hook Up (BCH).
Follow the BCH formula and you will quickly find yourself having more fun, with more women and enjoying a lot more sex.