Does you “Tinder” profile lack game? Have you even tried to craft a winning profile? Click the link to learn the scientifically proven strategies which will make the ladies swipe right.
Tinder is one of the most popular dating apps for a reason, it’s fun, simple, and it works. There are reasons why most guys fail and don’t get many matches. You reading this means you want to go beyond most guys, let’s get to the advice.
Tinder is all about pictures, and this is where you make your initial stand. You don’t have to be Brad Pitt in order to have ladies interested in you. Firstly, your main picture should be a headshot of you and you must be smiling (must be smiling). Not a staged headshot of you with a white background, a picture of you at an event will work. So long as you are clearly the center of and the reason for the picture.
The next picture should also be of you, but it can be more of an action shot. If you like to play softball, soccer, tennis, hike, swim, boat etc. Show your character and give a sense of your personality with the second shot.
The third one can be one with you and some friends, try to pick a picture where you are in the middle of your friends. Being in the middle of a group and taking up more of the photo represents masculinity and dominance, traits women pick up in photos even if on a subliminal level.
Try to look the same in all of your photos, I know this is hard. But if you have one good looking photo and in all the other’s you look like a goblin, ladies will not trust you and they may think you’re a catfish. Automatic left swipe.
Fourth picture should be of you either by yourself or with your dog. Again we want to show the ladies what you look like and that you have a masculine and nurturing side, the headshot and dog provide both. It goes without saying all of these picture should be in focus, no blurry shots. And smile for crying out loud, the stone cold stare into the distance will get you left swipes.
Do not be wearing sunglasses in your headshot photos. Your eyes are the first thing the ladies will see and if you’re covering them they will distrust you and swipe left. Humans have evolved to look at people’s eyes in order to gauge their intentions, if you’re hiding yours that screams red flag. Take the glasses off.
Don’t have less than four pictures, this is pretty simple. If you have less than four pictures it looks like a fake account.
Don’t have pictures with another girl. Only exception is if it’s in a large group photo.
Don’t have pictures that are more the two years old. Authenticity is something that will make you stand out. Looking the same age in all of your photos will work well for you.
Don’t be looking up at the camera in your pictures, this is a submissive pose and not masculine.
Do not have a shirtless bathroom selfie picture. It doesn’t matter if you have a gym ripped body, you can show it off with your shirt on in other pictures. Shirtless bathroom selfies are narcissistic and scream as a warning sign for a lady to run. If an attractive girl wants to get laid by a guy with a six pack she can. Your photo will not suddenly convince her she needs a six pack, shirtless bathroom selfie taking tinder match in her life.
Follow these steps and you will be doing great.
Don’t link your Instagram to Tinder, it’s just not necessary. If you do your profile and photo’s right she’ll have no reason to think your profile is fake. Also, you don’t want her to know everything about you. You want to meet her in person and have her ask you questions about yourself. Guys who are an open book from the start exemplify signs of insecurity and neediness. If you link your Instagram it sends signals of you trying to hard and wanting acceptance by opening up your personal Instagram to her, fuck that. If she likes you then she can ask you question and have a conversation like a real human being.
You should have text in your profile which exemplifies your personality. Shows her who you are and at the same time qualify what you’re looking for in a lady. Even if all you want is to hook up, high quality men aren’t walking around taking every lady that comes their way. High quality men choose who they will be with, not settle for whatever they can get. Here is a good example of a profile.
“Hey I’m john smith. I go to Santa Barbara State, I’m studying criminal law and run an online website Lovusion. I stay active, workout and value a healthy life style. Looking to meet a lady with class, who’s spontaneous and wears a smile every day.”
This simple profile not only shows you as being a man who’s driven to be someone (going to college, have a career goal, and a company), it also says a little about your lifestyle while telling the ladies you will not settle for just anyone. Immediately she will want you because you are different, you’re not just another desperate Tinder match, you’re a catch who will only spend time with ladies that have class, are spontaneous and wear smiles.
This is where many guys fail. Be direct and don’t try to find out about her whole life on a Tinder conversation or any non in person conversation. The whole point of tinder is to set a date, not chat her face off on tinder. Be the busy high status man your profile says you are. Chat with her a little and ask for her number. Don’t not try to text her on tinder for a week before you muster up the courage to ask her for her number, this is what insecure and weak men do. Exchange some quick texts, get her number, call her and set a date.
Bonus tip. Set a skype pre-date (5-10 minutes max) so you can make sure she’s not catfishing you. This establishes you as being that high quality man who’s not wasting his time on women that don’t reach his criteria.
Be attentive to her profile. Don’t text her “hey,” or “what’s up.” Look at her profile and find something to message her about. Key here is establish the connection you two have by finding something in her profile you two would enjoy together. After exchanging a few messages (less than ten, again do not text your fingers off) be direct and ask her for her number. Simply say, “You seem interesting, I’d like your number to call you and set a date?”
When you get her number call her, chat for no longer than five minutes and set a date, that’s it. Best friends spend hours on the phone, not two people who just met. Extended phone time makes you look like you have nothing else to do, don’t have balls enough to meet her in person, and may get you in the friend zone.
Now here are some things which you should not do when messaging on tinder.
If you believe you are somehow a genius and the world should bow at your intelligence, don’t mention your intelligence. If you really are that smart she will know once she engages in conversation with you. Silent confidence speaks louder the boastful mediocrity.
Don’t use emojis. Emoji’s are for 15 year old girls chatting with other 15 year old girls. Emojis are okay to use once you are in a relationship, but not in the beginning. You are too busy to spend five minutes looking for the popcorn emoji.
Don’t compliment her beauty. Do you really think you’re the first guy to tell her she’s beautiful? Listen just because saying romantic shit to women works in the movies doesn’t mean it’s going to work in real life. If you just matched with a lady on tinder, telling her she is beautiful will only make you look desperate and like all the other guys. It’s like showing up with flowers on the first date, it’s too much and she hasn’t earned those dam flowers.