We’ve all seen the good girl lust after the dirt bag guy(s) and thought “why would anyone ever date him?” The truth is those dirtbag guys display alpha characteristics of masculinity and strength which attract the ladies, but it’s not sustainable. Those dirtbags eventually lose the girl, once she realizes she’s not with an actual alfa male, but instead with a self-absorbed insecure narcissist.
A real alpha male knows how to build attraction that lasts decades, is genuine when he speaks, is authentic, keeps his word, speaks the truth as he sees it, treats others with respect, and isn’t scared of losing “the one” because there are an infinite number of women out there who would cherish the chance to be with a real alfa male.
Alfa males have a purpose or goal in life, they are looking to achieve for their present and future self. Alpha males understand they must love themselves before they can truly love others. He understands the body relies on the mind, and the mind relies on the body. He works out so he can be physically strong and never stops learning to keep his mind intellectually sharp. To stop learning is to stop growing, alfa males rebuke stagnation and push forward outside their comfort zone.
An alfa male’s word is a contract to the world and to his inner magistrate. He is strong enough to keep commitments, an flexible enough to embrace new opportunities. He is confident in what he knows yet not afraid to admit when he is wrong. To be proven wrong is to eliminate ignorance from one’s perceptions, alfa males thank individuals who prove them wrong and eliminate their once ignorant states.
An alpha male is congruent, his actions match his words. His dedication to authenticity lets him woman know, she can be herself around him and let her guard down. He tells her what he wants and how he feels, he does not allow her reactions to his truth change who he is. She feels safe with him because she knows the real him, he does not hide who he is, he lives who he is. An alpha male holds his woman to the same level of authenticity he holds for himself. He listens calmly, understand first and judges second, he lets his guard down knowing his value is not based on the opinions of others.
An Alpha Male gives her loyalty when she earns it, he does not waste time or wait for women who don’t know what they want in life.
All men have the potential to be alpha males including you.
- Manuel Martin